Struggling to make friends? You鈥檙e not alone
Making friends in college can sometimes feel more challenging than it did when you were younger鈥攁nd that鈥檚 okay. Here are some practical tips to help you connect with others.听
听听Manage your feelings
If you struggle with anxious thoughts when meeting new people, try these quick strategies before social situations:
- Labeling: Acknowledge your thoughts when they appear. For example, say to yourself, 鈥淚鈥檓 having the thought that this person may not like me.鈥 It reminds you that thoughts aren鈥檛 facts.
- Affirm yourself: Try, 鈥淚 can鈥檛 control how others feel about me, and that鈥檚 okay.鈥
- Relax your body: Tense and release each muscle group from head to toe.
- Breathe it out: Inhale for four seconds, exhale for seven. Add a sigh to release tension.听
听听Start small
Putting yourself out there can feel intimidating. Begin with low-pressure steps:
- Sit next to someone in class and make small talk.
- Invite someone for coffee or a walk after class.
- Attend smaller events like fitness classes or DIY Nights鈥攖hey can be less overwhelming than big crowds.
- Join a student organization and get to know others with similar interests.听
听听Build different types of connections
Friendships don鈥檛 all have to look one way鈥 stay open to different types of relationships with people:
- A study buddy
- Someone to grab meals with
- A workout partner
- A group to hang out with
- Someone you can talk to openly听
Not everyone will become your best friend, and that鈥檚 okay. A mix of connections can make your social life feel fuller.听
听听Be present
Phones can be a quick escape during a few moments of free time, but they can also block real-life connections. Being present helps you notice cues, share authentic moments and build trust.听听
- Keep your phone in your bag before class.
- Use pauses (in line, on the bus) to chat with someone nearby.
- When hanging out with others, encourage everyone to put their phones away.听
Just being real and present, even for a few minutes, can help you start real friendships and make connections that last.听
听听Find support
Support is available鈥擟U 抖阴传媒在线 provides resources to help you connect and thrive:
Peer Wellness Coaching: Connect with trained fellow students who understand the challenges of college life. Peer Wellness Coaches offer a supportive, judgment-free space to talk through stress, set goals and build personalized strategies for making friends and finding your community.听听
Student engagement: Getting involved in student programs, events and organizations gives you countless opportunities to meet new people who share your passions, hobbies or academic goals. Whether you join a club, attend themed social gatherings or volunteer, these activities make starting conversations easier and provide common ground.听听
Counseling & Psychiatric Services (CAPS): CAPS offers professional support for students through individual counseling, group therapy, workshops and skill-building sessions. CAPS can help you develop effective coping strategies, boost your confidence in social situations and learn tools for forming meaningful connections.听
Bottom line: Making friends takes time. Keep showing up, stay open and remember鈥攜ou鈥檙e not the only one looking for connection.听